Bondage, which is the B from BDSM (Bondage, Discipline/Domination, Sadism, and Masochism), is one of the most popular of kinks. In terms of popularity, it places second only to sex toys and is perhaps the biggest gateway into the fetish/fantasy scene. A good bondage kit is a must.
If you are curious about bondage or are looking to upgrade your sex life but haven't quite got the knowledge or the confidence to break into the scene, this article should be the perfect flavor for you.
In this article, designed for the curious beginner, we are going to be examining 7 of the best beginner kits available in 2022 later on. First a little background info...
Why Choose A Bondage Kit?
Bondage is one of those kinks that require little preparation. The only pre-requisites are the equipment and the consent (more on that later). It is also a kink that will need to be explored in-depth with your partner. Everyone has different boundaries and levels of comfort.
This is what makes bondage kits so popular. They will usually come with a range of different pieces of equipment that will allow you to explore different aspects of bondage and control with your partner. For newbies in the field, this is the best way to familiarize yourself with a range of equipment.
Top Pick!
The Master Mega Bondage Kit as it’s the true all-rounder when sinking your teeth into kink. However, I ‘command’ you to read on and make your own decision. We review 7 kits at the end of this article 🙂
What Beginners Need To Know About Bondage
Right, for newcomers to the scene, this section is massively important.
A common misconception about the BDSM scene to outsiders is that we are all about pain and dominance, but this couldn't be further from the truth. In all honesty, this scene is all about boundaries and respect. When you are hog-tied and gagged, the last thing you want is someone abusing their position of power.
For this reason, all BDSM activities, including bondage, should be discussed in detail with your partner before you begin. This covers two aspects that are important in the kink scene, boundaries and consent.
Your partner should always be consenting to any activity you wish to perform, and wherever possible, you should know their exact boundaries.
If you are new to bondage, you are probably still discovering your boundaries. So make sure to use a "safeword" as well. Or venture into light bondage instead if you're still nervous.
Safe Word Bondage
The safe word needs to come with absolute power. There is to be no "persuading, judgment, ignoring or misunderstanding" here; the safe word means STOP.
You stop whatever you are doing, return to a position of comfort, and if your partner wants to discuss what has happened in an open-minded way, you should listen; if they don't want to discuss it, you shouldn't push, and you should take that activity off the table in future.
This becomes more essential the further into the kink you get, especially if you decide to engage in pain play or more complicated bondage.
Items That Should Be In A Bondage Kit
I have been engaging in bondage play with partners for a number of years now, and in my opinion, the simpler equipment is often by far the best. Things like soft rope, hand and ankle restraints, and blindfolds can be used quickly and easily. This is great for spur-of-the-moment sex and fun. The more complicated equipment like swings and under the bed restraints need to be set up in advance. It would not be the first time a complicated knot or a tricky strap has ruined the mood.
If I was to create my own essential list of bondage equipment for beginners, it would include:
- Soft Rope (Unlimited uses here)
- Quick and easy hand and ankle restraints.
- A comfortable blindfold.
- 4 Way Hog Tie.
- A comfortable ball-gag.
- Paddle/Tassel Whip.
With this basic kit, you should be able to explore your boundaries to your heart's content. Once you find out what you like you can look to get some more advanced equipment.
Items That Shouldn't Be In A Bondage Kit
There are a couple of items that I have found are either a waste of money and will end up gathering dust in your cupboards or a little too extreme for the average beginner.
Riding Crop
Riding Crops are a bit extreme. It does not take much to cause some serious pain with one. For this reason, they should not be used by beginners. Paddles and tassel whips are a lot easier to control and will be an easier way to explore pain thresholds with your partner.
Collars
Any bondage involving the neck needs to be treated with extreme care. For this reason, we think beginners should stay away from collars. A ball-gag is a much easier way to explore that kind of bondage.
Now we’ve got what we should be looking for in a beginners bondage kit, now for the best bit...Trying them out.
Top 7 Bondage Kits - 7 Product Reviews
Position Master Mega Bondage Kit
Our first kit is an excellent choice for beginners. Whilst there is a strong bondage element, the main focus of the Position Master Mega Bondage Kit is to help you and your partner get into positions that you might struggle to without a little help.
You get some wrist and ankle restraints, as well as a four-way hog-tie. These will allow you to tie up your partner in a number of easy bondage positions. You also get a blindfold. These will make the perfect foundation for your bondage exploration.
To spice things up further, you also get two different wedges, one inflatable, one solid, to support you both during those harder-to-maintain positions.
Finally, you get some over-the-door options. The first of which is a set of arm straps that holds your partners' arms above their heads for some easy-going standing position bondage.
The second is a full-blown sex swing which will allow you to suspend your partner in the air, making for some great penetration angles.
This allows your partner to relax and fully submit to your passion.
All in all, this is a great beginner's kit, with faux-fur restraints that are comfortable to wear, even during long sessions. You should get a lot of use out of every item too, making it even better value for money.
This is the perfect beginner's exploration kit, although it could be overkill for those that are fresh onto the scene.
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Bondage Boutique Seduce Me Lover's Bed Bondage Kit
This next kit is an excellent choice for those that want to explore the fundamentals of bondage. This four-piece kit doesn't come with all the fancy over-the-door options the first kit comes with, but it makes up for it in terms of the materials and quality of the restraints.
There are wrist and ankle restraints that can be used with the hog-tie under the bed harness. This can be used both ways, either to tie your partner up freely or to restrain them to the bed. Then you have a high-quality blindfold and ball-gag and a tassel whip.
This kit contains all of the essentials we suggested from our beginner's kit list bar the rope, which makes it a strong option. It will also take up a lot less space and does not require anything over than a willing partner.
The restraints use an ultra-soft lining with faux fur leather that feels really luxurious and high-quality to wear. The clasps are quick release, too, making them quick to fasten and un-fasten at the right moments.
If you want a kit that contains all of the essences of bondage, this will make the perfect addition to any bedroom.
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Lovehoney All You Need Bondage Kit
For the couples that approach their sexual exploration at full steam, the "All You Need" kit from Lovehoney has been designed to cover every inch. This is a kit made to push the boundaries and will most likely contain items that you use once, never to return to again, but then again, that's probably the point!
This kit is going to require patience, safe words, and a lot of lube!
You get all of the items we suggested to you in our beginners kit check-list, a long length of silky rope, a blindfold and ball gag, tassel whip, and restraints for your ankles and wrists. You also get a 4-way to hog-tie and under the bed restraint system, but it doesn't stop there.
There is a pair of nipple ring clamps for the adventurous and a clit clamp for the very adventurous.
Then you have a suction cup 6-inch dildo, which can be used in a variety of ways to add another layer of fun.
In terms of anal play, you get a silicone buttplug and a set of anal beads, which can be used to tease and arouse.
For him, you get a cock ring to enhance erections and to make things better, and you can turn on the vibrations to share the fun. On top of that, there is also a textured silicone stroker that can be used to give mind-blowing handjobs.
For her, you get to make use of a high-powered g spot vibrator and a 7-speed bullet that can be used anywhere, as well as a discrete set of kegel balls that can be worn out and about for that dirty twist to dinner dates.
Lovehoney has covered all the angles here, and for the price, there are no other kits on the market that offer the same pleasure per dollar value.
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Lovehoney Take Control Bondage Kit
For those couples that are looking to explore role reversal and power play, this next kit is the perfect way to do so. The Lovehoney Take Control Bondage Kit comes with some great essentials for beginner bondage play, including a flogger. Blindfold and four-way restraints for the wrists and ankles.
What stands this kit apart from the rest is the inclusion of a strap-on set with a compatible dildo for couples that want to explore pegging or penetration fun. The dildo is the perfect size and shape for newbies and will allow both you and your partner to make the most of the power shift dynamic.
You also get some nipple suckers, a breathable ball gag, and a wired bullet vibrator with a remote. Everything is really well made, and the restraints are comfortable; the strap-on has great adjustability and fits really well too.
A great introductory kit for power-play dynamics and pegging.
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Passion Bedroom Bondage Kit
This kit is a budget-friendly version of the Seduce Me Lovers set that we talked about earlier. It comes with the main essentials for bondage, including restraints for the wrists and legs, a ball gag, a blindfold, and a tassel whip.
If you want a kit that will allow you to introduce bondage to the bedroom, but you don't want to fork out the money for an expensive set of bondage equipment, this is a great idea for a present or a "guage the reaction" present.
The kit is well made but lacks the premium feel of the other sets on this list. That being said, you get a lot for your money here, and you can always upgrade at a later date once your partner is addicted to seeing you tied up or being tied up themselves!
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Tracey Cox Supersex Beginner's Bondage Kit
If you already have some of the basics and want a set of high-quality yet affordable restraints to add to your repertoire.
You get a blindfold and a full set of under-the-bed restraints that tie to ankles and wrists, perfect for giving complete control to the dominant partner. Each cuff is made of a velvety smooth material that is strong enough to hold even the most passionate of lovers.
This is the perfect kit for traveling as it takes up hardly any room in a suitcase and will allow you the full bondage experience wherever you have a bed.
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The final kit on the list is a simplistic but very versatile kit. We take this with us everywhere that we go because it allows us to get into some of our favorite positions yet only takes up a tiny space in our travel luggage.
In this kit, you get two restraints, one set for your ankles one for your wrists with velcro straps that allow you to tie them to each other without the need for a hog-tie.
You can either go same leg to same wrist, wrists to wrists, leg to leg, or any other variant you can imagine. They are comfortable, and most importantly for us, they are strong. My partner doesn't have to take it easy when she's tied up here, which can be a problem with lower-quality ties.
If you already know what you like and want a quick and easy option you can use to restrain your lover in minutes, this is where we would spend our money. It's a cornerstone to our kit, and we couldn't praise them enough.
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Conclusion
Over the last decade, I have spent a fortune on bondage equipment. Doing your research, like you are doing right now, is crucial. Some kits are worth the money, and some aren't.
Luckily, all of the kits on this list offer great value for money, and neither you nor your partner will be disappointed with any decision made. However, if I had to pick a product to suggest to my younger, much more innocent self, the Master Mega Bondage Kit offers the most versatility, value, and fun. It will allow you to experiment in a wide variety of ways without taking up as much space as some of the bigger kits. It offers an incredible foundation of high-quality gear that will help both you and your partner become adjusted to this exciting new world.
Exploring your sexual desires is both sexy and fulfilling, and we are excited to be part of this decision with you.
Remember, play safe, have respect for each other, and don't do anything I wouldn't do.