You can use an array of dildos, harnesses and strapons for pegging. In our opinion though the Lovehoney Advanced Strap-On Harness Kit with 7 Inch G-Spot Dildo is the best strapon for pegging around because it's robust and has a wonderful shape. We cover another 9 recommendations later on.
But before we get into that, let's go over some background information...
What Is Pegging?
Simply, pegging is the sexual act of a woman who wears a strapon dildo to penetrate her (usually cisgendered heterosexual) male partner in the anus.
In other words, it’s when a woman fucks a guy in the ass with a strapon.
Where to Start?
As with all things kink, the “where to start?” question can be answered with one simple answer: with enthusiastic consent and clear communication.
Using a strapon for pegging is never something to take lightly. It's a super intimate act after all!
Now, the communication aspect can be approached from two different angles. Maybe you’re a guy who wants to ask his partner if she would be interested in pegging you. Maybe you’re a girl who wants to ask her partner if he would be interested in getting pegged.
Regardless of which position you’re in, clear and honest communication is where to start. Read our guide to Femdom to get some tips on that.
If this is something you want to try, but you’re not 100% comfortable bringing it up in conversation, perhaps this is a chance to lube up a bit. Not lube, lube - but social lubrication.
When it comes down to it, though… You will need lots of high quality lube, like this one.
How To Make Pegging Fun
You can make it fun by proposing a “twenty questions” game with your partner over a bottle of wine… or tequila, if that’s more your style.
Broach the subject with some tact, honesty, and some vulnerability (someone is going to end up in a vulnerable position, if the conversation goes well…) and go from there.
It is worth noting, of course, that consent can’t be given while intoxicated, so only use alcohol to bring up the topic.
After it’s initially discussed and at a later time when everyone involved is sober, is the only time consent is true, enthusiastic consent.
I hope I don’t have to explain consent much further. Enthusiastic consent is what we’re looking for before you bring out your strapon for pegging!
You may be nervous bringing up the topic of pegging with your partner regardless of which position you’ll be in, but if it’s something you want to try, bring it up!
You may be pleasantly surprised to find out your partner is into it, too… and pleasantly surprised with what comes after!
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Why Use A Strapon For Pegging?
Using a strapon for pegging has gained quite a following of popularity these last few years. It’s been written about in publications from Cosmopolitan to Men’s Health.
Again, this needs to be answered from two different perspectives: that of the giver and that of the receiver.
For the guy on the receiving end, it can mean a lot of things. Because traditional heterosexual sex involves the woman being penetrated, using a strapon for pegging can set up a role reversal - one where she is in control. Of course, this means the man is in the “submissive” position. This can be a turn on for a lot of men… and women.
The Prostate (or P-Spot)
Any quick google search of “male prostate stimulation,” “the male g-spot,” or “prostate play” will give you tons of results (and great resources!) on how to effectively stimulate the prostate. There is no shortage of extremely enthusiastic guys who are willing to tell you how good it feels.
Rimming, prostate massage, pegging. A perfect progression on your butt stuff journey.
For the woman on the giving end, there usually isn’t any physical sensation on her part (although with some strapons, there is, and I’ll discuss that in a minute…) so it’s mostly psychological.
Sex is hugely psychological in the first place, so it’s no surprise that there are women out there who enjoy this role reversal and being in charge.
Of course, a lot of people take pleasure in giving pleasure, so if your woman is one of those partners, they’ll enjoy doling out eye-rolling prostate orgasms peg after peg after peg. Lucky you!
What to Look For When Choosing a Strapon?
Traditional Or Strapless?
There are two main types of strapons for you to choose from:
A traditional strapon for pegging, like this one.
Or a “strapless” strapon, like this one.
The first one is what usually comes to mind anytime the topic of strapons comes up. Like… at the dinner table.
It consists of a pegging harness that wraps around the waist and thighs and has a piece that rests on the pubic bone.
Some products come just as the harness, and other harnesses come with a dildo. The benefit here of course is that one harness can work for many different interchangeable dildos. Variety is the spice of pegging, after all!
The “strapless” strapon is different in ways you can deduce yourself from the title - there’s no strap! Instead, the dildo has an extension built onto the end (called “the pony”) that the woman inserts into her vagina, then hangs on with her PC muscles like the womb warrior she is.
Your Pleasure Is Important Too!
When I mentioned above that some strapons give pleasure to the woman doing the pegging, this is the type that does. Because it’s inserted inside her and usually because there’s something for clitoral stimulation, this type of strapon (strap-in?) does give pleasure to the woman in charge.
Once you’ve decided which type of strapon for pegging you want, the next thing to look for is the size of the dildo doing the penetrating.
If this is your first time being pegged, your safest (and most likely pleasurable) bet is to start with something small. With the traditional strapons, you get the versatility of being able to attach different sized and shaped dildos for different sensations.
With the strapless strapons, what you get is what you’ll be giving. So make sure your partner is comfortable with the size of it before you spend your hard earned money on a “this-is-too-big” futile fantasy.
Beyond those two considerations, you have your normal considerations for all of your sex toys: the build quality, the ability to easily clean it, your favorite color, what you’ll name it, etc.
The Reviews
Desire Luxury Rechargeable Strapless Strap-On Dildo Vibrator
This was a fantastic experience for both of us. For a beginner, it may be slightly big, but the vibrations REALLY help ease it in. My girlfriend, bless her heart and Kegel muscles, found the size and shape of the part that goes inside of her just right. The ears on the clitoral stimulator were a bit tough, she said, though.
The premium silicone feels nice on the skin and is a great texture - stiff enough and soft enough for anal penetration at the same time.
The “strapless” design really creates a nice, smooth connection between two people without the “bulk” of a traditional strapon.
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Lovehoney Advanced Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 7 Inch G-Spot Dildo
Right out of the box you can tell this harness is built well. The materials are soft and strong and the sewing is tough enough to last years. (One review said it has withstood 6 years of weekly action!)
The harness only took a minute for her to step in and fit it to her hips and was comfortable for her the entire time. We did utilize the crotch-pocket to slip a bullet vibrator into so she got some sensations out of it, which she enjoyed very much. That little pocket turned out to be a big selling point.
The actual dildo is nice in feel, but it may be slightly too big for a beginner. It’s curved to reach the P-spot (or G-spot, if you’re using it on a girl) and it does hit it, but the size might be too big for a beginner.
If you’re not a beginner, though, this dildo is great and it DOES hit the right spot while using it.
If the dildo does turn out to be too big, it’s easily replaceable with one that’s smaller, as this harness is able to hold different size dildos.
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OUR TOP PICK! 
Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit (4 Piece)
The best thing about this strapon for pegging kit is its versatility. The harness itself is very adjustable and is designed to fit most people.
This kit comes with two different sized dildos, which is a huge (and a somewhat smaller, on the black one) plus! The smaller sized dildo is a great beginner dildo for those apprehensive about your first time. The larger dildo is perfect for when you want to graduate to a bigger size. The bullet feels nice inside the pink dildo when you’re using it, but it is a bit difficult to get out when you’re done. (Whoops.)
This is a perfect kit for someone just starting out and will be ready to deliver when you want to move onto bigger (and better!) things
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Lovehoney Beginner's Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit & 5 Inch Pegging Dildo
This strapon for pegging set is advertised for beginners because of its not-so-intimidating sized dildo and it serves that purpose perfectly. The dildo is small enough to not cause fear on the receiving end and big enough so that you can still get the sensation of being pegged.
It’s definitely bigger than a finger during a prostate massage, but again, the perfect size and shape for the beginner.
My girlfriend said she liked the harness more tight than loose, and the straps and buckles allowed her to pull them tight while she was wearing it and it stayed that way the entire time. She likes the shiny patent leather front, but she especially loved putting her bullet vibe in the crotch pocket so she got something out of it, too.
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Lovehoney Triple Strap-On Harness Kit (4 Piece)
Because this comes with three different sized dildos, it’s a fantastic choice for a beginner who wants to start slow and is eager to try more! The small size is great - thin enough to use for a first time pegging experience but still bigger than a finger during a prostate massage.
The medium size is longer than the small, but the same thickness. The large is long AND thick. I’ve yet to try the larger one (it’s a bit intimidating) but the first two are amazing and I’ll always know that the third one is waiting in the drawer if I’m ever ready for it!
The texture on all three - both the ridges and the surface of the silicone dildo.
She said the straps felt sturdy and comfortable when cinched down and the harness on her pubic bone felt natural.
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Lifelike Lover Luxe Posable Realistic Silicone Strapless Strap-On
My girlfriend and I both loved this strapon for pegging. The poseable nature of this dildo really made the difference when finding the right angle for pegging. We noticed a little bit of flex between the “pony” (the part that goes inside the vagina) and the shaft, but it wasn’t detrimental.
It actually added a bit of movement that felt like a more natural thrusting motion. (Although my girlfriend said the part that rubs against her clit wasn’t always where it should be to do its job, the rest of the dildo did its job for me on the receiving end.)
The length of the dildo was perfect for me and the girth of the shaft was just right for a beginner to intermediate in anal play.
The actual shape of the dildo (the head and lifelike ridges) made for a lot of wonderful sensations and the high quality silicone provided a nice skin-like texture that made it feel like the real thing.
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Lovehoney Unisex Crotchless Open-Back Lace Harness Briefs
Let’s get one thing straight. These harness briefs look adorable on my girlfriend. They definitely look “sexier” than a traditional harness, if that makes sense.
The fit was a bit small (my girlfriend has hourglass hips), but I wonder if that was done intentionally so they’re secure enough to maintain total control of the dildo during the thrusting. If you’re deciding between two sizes, choose the larger one.
It doesn’t come with a dildo, which can be seen as a con, but it’s also a pro - you get to choose which dildo is right for you. We used a couple of different sized dildos that came with the other kits and all of them fit with these briefs and the hole held the dildo well during penetration.
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This, like the one above, has an adorable look to it that seems more innocent than it should be given what happened afterwards. Unlike other harnesses that have an O-ring that holds the dildo, this one has a velcro one that worked really well with the dildos we tried.
She said the harness itself was very comfortable and the dildo hole was quite low on her pubic bone (a good thing) which made thrusting feel like a more natural motion.
It doesn’t come with a dildo, which means you can customize this setup with whatever size dildo you like - small if you’re a beginner, larger if you’re more adventurous like we were. We experimented with trying to fit a wide range of dildos and all of them were held by the harness just right.
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Between the frilly bits and pink accents and black leather and metal O-rings, this has the perfect look for setting the mood somewhere between “cute and innocent” and “very, very BDSM-y.”
This one isn’t as infinitely adjustable as other ones are, but if it fits around your waist and hips you will find this extremely comfortable and extremely secure. My girlfriend said the soft frilly bits on the front as well as the strap that goes along her lower back added more comfort than she was expecting them to.
So if you need something more adjustable your better off going with a different strapon for pegging.
It doesn’t come with a dildo, but again, that just means you get to pick your favorite one to use and it’s ready to get to it! The harness held each dildo we tried and felt super secure allowing for total control during the thrusting.
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My girlfriend immediately noted how comfortable this harness is once it was on. She said it felt nearly as comfortable as a regular pair of panties. The wide strap in the back made it feel more secure on her, which gave her more control of the thrusting.
The velcro that holds the dildo is secure enough that we didn’t have any issues with loss of control over the dildo which made for some amazing experiences with a few different sized dildos.
It doesn’t come with a dildo, but again, that just means you can choose whichever one you want to start withPros
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Summary...
If you’re a beginner looking to try being pegged (or doing the pegging!) for the first time, I have to recommend the Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit (4 Piece). It’s a high quality harness that comes with two sized dildos, perfect for beginners and those more experienced in pegging. The included bullet vibrator added a lot of very welcome sensations when put inside the pink dildo.
If you’re new and unsure where to start, we hope this article gives you stimulation in all the right areas (your mind, you dirty perverts!) and the right product to start your pegging playtimes.
You can’t really go wrong with any of these sets, but this one is your best beginner pegging kit that includes everything you need including a pamphlet from Tracy Cox herself on how to get the most out of your playtime!
Of course, all of the pegging fun you’ll have will require lots of lube, which you can get here!
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